Tuesday, August 13, 2019

Adversity brings strength

June 5 - August 13, 2019

Many of you who are following our journey, see all the wonderful adventures that we are experiencing.

What we don't often post, are the adversities that we face while traveling abroad away from family and friends.

These range from small things, lack of power for devices, water production, laundry, etc.... to the harder ones, fewer children to socialize with, saying farewell..... to the hardest of all, family illness or deaths, relying on family to take care of aging/sickly parents. There is a lot of guilt that goes along with deciding to travel abroad for an undetermined amount of time.

Recently, I received devastating news about my Mom's health. I was fortunate enough to be in a place  where I could jump on a flight back to Canada, to spend time with her.

Before departing, Shaun and I had to decide who would travel back, and who would stay with Element. She was scheduled to make the jump to Indonesia with a rally in July, and we needed to move or be "stuck" in Australia for another year, due to weather patterns. We gave Paige the choice on where she wanted to be (Paige made the hard decision to stay with Element and make the jump to Indonesia). Jordan, being younger did not have the same choice, she traveled back to Canada with me.

Jordan and I made it back in time to see my Mom but, four days after we arrived she suddenly passed away. It was so shocking to have lost her. Paige and Shaun, who had planned on making the long journey home, once Element was safely tucked away up the coast of Australia, didn't have the chance to say goodbye. It broke my heart to call them on June 9, and tell them both that "my Mom died today". I was fortunate enough to have had the chance to say goodbye and have some semblance of closure.

My brother and his wife were exceptional during the whole process. They had been the backbone for the past 4 years, while my family travelled abroad. Without them, my Mom would have been even  more lonely.

Next came the handling of my Mom's affairs, and trying to keep a 9 year old from being bored silly. Have ever heard the phrase, "it takes a village"? I am so grateful for my village that helped me through. They didn't hesitate to take Jordan or, help in any way necessary. I love them all and am so fortunate to have them in my life.

Between my brother and his wife, we worked through everything quite successfully, knowing that I had a definite timeline. Jordan and I would be departing Canada August 13, to make the trek back to Element and the rest of our family.

It has been a crazy couple of months, and I am excited to say that everything was completed. We made wonderful new friends, reconnected with old friends, drove a lot of kilometers, had teeth extracted, built character, survived as a single/married parent, dug deep for strength, and found that through tragedy brings love and support.

I think of my Mom daily, forgetting sometimes that she is gone. Wanting so many times to call and tell her some exciting news.

The adversities that have crossed my path over the past 4 years have made me a stronger more resilient person.

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Wednesday, December 19, 2018

Transition from land life to boat life.....

In a response to the Facebook group Kids4Sail and CruisingMomBlog.com, here is our transition experience from land life to boat life.

We are a family of 4 from Canada that made the "jump" into cruising life back in January of 2015. Our boat is called Element. We haven't looked back since.

We were the typical family, living in the suburbs with two careers, two kids, two dogs, and saving up for our next vacation. With both of us working it was always a juggling act, trying to get through life. I remember always juggling, with work, kids, daycare, meals, household duties....... ok, you get the picture. Of course I was unable to juggle them all perfectly and, sometimes a ball or six would fall. I would think to myself, "How important was that one that just fell?" It felt like a never ending cycle. One year when we were looking into a vacation spot, Shaun was pricing out an all inclusive Mexico vacation. They wanted to charge us full price for our 4 year old, so he started looking into a sailboat charter in the BVI's. It ended up being our first charter and where we would seriously consider changing our lives. Before we had even considered buying a boat, our family had been members of a local cruising club in White Rock, BC. We were taught from scratch how to sail safely in the bay, and in the Gulf and San Juan Islands. We would progressively take longer trips and when we had kids would strap them into car seats to sail across to the islands. In fact, I was so pregnant one trip that I couldn't even close up my foul weather gear.

Once we finally decided that the cruising lifestyle was going to be our goal, we created an "exit strategy". This strategy would become the new way of life, until we could achieve our goal. Sometimes it was easy, and other times it was more challenging. It was a love/hate relationship.

Our strategy consisted of many parts, including selling our home and all of it's "stuff", exiting from a family business (mine), my husband leaving a company that he had been with for 19 years, flying overseas to find the perfect boat for us as we wanted to start in the Mediterranean, renting a small temporary apartment and, finally moving onto the boat. It would take us three years to achieve our goal with ups, downs and some sacrifices. Our daughters would learn how to let go of personal belongings, the freedom to have a pet, sharing a room, and the "normal" school environment. They would also face their first of many farewells from friends and a life that was convenient and considered normal.

We wanted to prepare ourselves properly for living in a smaller space. We achieved this by downsizing from a larger house, to an apartment and, finally onto the boat. Doing it this way allowed us to purge in stages. The bulk was purged once we sold the house, and then the rest once we moved out of the apartment. We ended up flying with 13 bags in total. These were the "things" that we considered necessary for our new adventure.

The downsizing process was tough, and emotional at first but, turned into a very freeing process. We realized that the majority of our belongings were just things that could be replaced in the future. We were able to sell or give away the majority of our things, keeping the items that we felt couldn't be replaced and, We were able to store these belongings in a rubbermaid bin in a family members attic.

Shaun, had always wanted to sail, and possibly live aboard a sailboat. For close to 10 years, he had been researching different sailboats. The boat selection was narrowed a little once we decided that we wanted a catamaran. By we, I mean me. He then focused on the specific brand that he preferred. That was a Catana. He had already been a member on the owners group, and knew what to look for and, what to avoid. In December 2014 our family headed to Europe to visit several used Catanas, and to choose the one that would fit our needs. Our new to us home ended up being in Mamaris, Turkey so, that was where our adventures began.

There were several other contributing factors that drove us to make a change in our lives. My Mom and Dad had retired and were doing the "snow bird thing", living part-time in Arizona and part-time on the West Coast of Canada. Shaun and I had visited them during this phase of their lives, and felt like we wanted something different. We also made the hard choice to continue with our plans even though my Dad got sick. This actually played a big role in our decision because, we knew that we weren't guaranteed to be healthy at retirement age. Lastly, we wanted to do this while we were young enough to be able to handle the physical requirements of a sailboat. We worried of course about the kids but, figured that they are resilient and will become better human beings.

That is how we transitioned into boat life. It is a wonderful life. It can be loney at times but, also very fulfilling. It has taught us to seize every opportunity because, we don't know if it will present itself again.


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Sunday, September 23, 2018

Vanuatu

September 23 - October 8

September 23

We arrived into Port Villa, Vanuatu on September 23. We had to check in. We went into town to try and find the elusive immigration. The signage was non existent, and after asking several people, including the local police, we finally found the correct building.

Along the way we discovered the fruit and veggie market, as well as the artisan market (where we later purchased several statues). We stopped at the Nambawan cafe for a beverage.

During our time in Port Villa, we met a family from the US, living aboard their sailboat called S/V Enough. We became fast friends with, Geoff, Miriam, Hirachio, and Noah.


a sunset on our way to Vanuatu
our first ever Lorakeet (we didn't know what bird this was at the time)
lovely flowers at the market
the market






September 27

Went with our new friends Enough to see the Aelan Chocolate factory, and then on to the Tanna coffee factory.















the roaster

un-roasted beans


coffee beans ready to be sold


the garden outside



on the way back to our respective boats, time for a little play time

September 29 

We visited the National Museum in Port Vila. Edgar, one of the museum staff originally from Pentecost, was gracious enough to share his sand Droing expertise with Paige. Sandroing is a form of drawing, of geometric figures in the sand, each drawing is a type of maze which is traced as a continuous line, often without lifting the finger from the sandy ground. These drawings were/are used to leave messages, explain concepts and to teach children.


the Sanddroing board in the museum

Edgar








Paige being instructed by Edgar

the finished drawing
Edgar also, shared a local song played on a traditional instrument.


The museum had many fascinating carvings.









October 8 

We left Port Villa and sailed to Tanna (where the best coffee comes from). We ended up in Port Resolution with several other boats including, Enough. The bay was beautiful. The ash from the active volcano, not as much. Once we were settled, Geoff from Enough, took the kids to explore and found a hot spring, volcano steam vent, and rainbow coloured clay. We later went on a walk to explore the area.

Miriam, was gracious enough to research and book our volcano tour to Mt. Yasur.

Captain James Cook was in Port Resolution in the 1600’s. Back then the water levels were significantly higher and his boat was actually anchored 1.5 miles inland….. It was crazy to see the difference.

boogie boarding with Enough
selfie with the locals near a hot pool
local village

view on the walk


steam vent

wild watermelon anyone?
collecting colorful clay
rainbow clay

the result of Paige's collection
the local village people
on our way to the volcano tour
these are signs that you carry to represent your country


dancers

on the way up

smoke rising
locals
at the top
as the sun sets
a small video clip
Shaun found a Canadian flag from the boat we towed, Vata at the local Yacht club that had a little heart shape with our ship's name inside.

Vanuatu was a wonderful stop with it's vibrant colors, wonderful chocolate, and exceptional coffee. It is highly recommended to visit.

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